i'll try it, but before i tried that, i simply changed "xterm" to aterm in the config.
since that didn't help, i doubt a symlink will. incompatible options? so now the solution remaining is for someone to make an xterm extension. but i'll try your symlink.
edit: okay, i tried the new emelfm2 extension, it's not as bad as i thought.
what happens is, it will allow you to type commands into the term. when you try to use "exit," it won't. but alt+f4 still works.